After a loved one dies, we may feel a mix of emotions—sadness, relief, guilt and regret, to name just a few. These emotions are typical. But, as a caregiver of that loved one, we may find ourselves wondering “what now?”
Each month we set the facts straight regarding myths surrounding hospice care.
This month’s myth: Hospice only cares for the patient
At Carroll Hospice, we understand that the whole family is affected when an individual is faced with a life-limiting illness. That’s why we make sure to provide support for family members in addition to the patient.
Carroll Hospice will remember those who died in service to our country on Sunday, September 30.
It is on this day that luminaries are lit as part of the Gold Star Luminary Initiative to remember those who died while serving in our country’s military.
The men and women took turns introducing themselves around the L-shaped table as they waited for their lunch orders to arrive. Some had been coming to Carroll Hospice’s bereavement luncheons for years, while, for a few, this was the first time they’d attended.
But all who came to share a meal were looking for solace, a place they could share their grief and memories, their troubles and fears, with those who could understand and empathize because they too had experienced the death of someone close.
The luncheon, facilitated by a Carroll Hospice bereavement counselor, takes place the last Tuesday of each month at Baugher’s Restaurant. No registration is required.
One by one, they shared who they had lost, how long it had been and what they had come to understand during the grieving process. “We all [grieve] differently,” explained one participant, who had lost her husband. “People who think we should be beyond this haven’t walked in our shoes.”
One participant shared how a trip to the beach—a place both he and his wife loved—brought up so many unexpected feelings. “Grief hits you sometimes when you least expect it,” he said. Another remembered how her husband was able to fix anything around the house. Now, she’s troubled at the thought of someone coming into her house to do those things. “This is a group I never wanted to be a part of,” she admitted.
For some attendees, volunteering, new hobbies and keeping busy all helped with their grief. But those things never completely fill the void.
“The outward mourning goes away,” confided a group participant to the others. “But the grief never does.”
Carroll Hospice has a variety of support groups to help with the loss of a loved one. For more information, call 410-871-7656.
This article originally appeared in DASH, Carroll Hospice’s community newsletter.
Verdence Capital Advisors, an independent investment advisory firm, recently donated $15,000 to support Carroll Hospice and Carroll Hospital.
Verdence Capital Advisors leaders Leo Kelly III, chief executive officer, and Thomas New, chief operating officer, recently presented the check to Ellen Finnerty Myers, chief development officer and vice president of corporate development at Carroll Hospital.
The firm’s donation will go toward supporting Taste of Carroll, Carroll Hospice’s signature fundraising event held in April to benefit hospice services. In addition, the funds will benefit the hospital’s Carroll Golf Classic, a popular golfing event held each September to raise funds for the hospital’s programs and services.
Verdence Capital Advisors has been a strong supporter of the hospital for many years. With this donation, the company’s cumulative support of Carroll Hospital and Carroll Hospice is nearly $100,000.
“We are proud to support Carroll Hospital and the outstanding work they do. Their uncompromising commitment to superior care for people in Carroll County and the surrounding communities is truly inspiring,” said New.
“We are very thankful to Verdence Capital Advisors for their generous support of our hospital and hospice services. It is because of partners like them that we are able to continue to provide high quality care for our community,” said Myers.
Pictured from left to right are Thomas New, chief operating officer of Verdence Capital Advisors; Ellen Finnerty Myers, chief development officer and vice president of corporate development at Carroll Hospital; and Leo Kelly III, chief executive officer of Verdence Capital Advisors.
Carroll Hospice has been named a 2018 Hospice Honors recipient by HEALTHCAREfirst, the leading provider of web-based home health and hospice software, billing and coding services, CAHPS surveys and advanced analytics.
Hospice Honors is a prestigious program that recognizes hospices providing the highest level of quality as measured from the caregiver’s point of view.
Kim and Mike Burden were married for 35 years and raised four sons together. In December 2010, the couple started a different journey filled with hormonal therapy, surgeries, radiation appointments and a lot of uncertainty.